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What kind of adulterer are you?
Posted By katie allison granju
That’s the question posed in a new book, which argues that “good people” sometimes cheat on the person to whom they are legally wed.
There are 17 reasons people cheat, Mira Kirshenbaum says in her book “When Good People Have Affairs,” and they’re not all selfish or immoral.
My answer to the question: it doesn’t matter what kind you are. And adultery is de facto immoral, no matter what the reason behind it.
So do you think a book like this rationalizes adultery, making it more acceptable?
And another question: does McCain’s abandonment of his first wife to pursue a relationship with the current Mrs. McCain have any influence on whether you would vote for him?
Jun 10th, 2008
Yes, these are all rationalizations. A friend just revealed to me that he is having an affair and tried justifying it with several of these reasons.
All of these rationalizations are cowardly and having an affair is an excuse to dodge work that needs to be done in your marriage, even if that work means ending the marriage.
Regarding McCain, or any other politician, marriage is complicated. I’m more concerned about the economy and the war than I am about a politican’s personal life.
McCain’s marital missteps have no bearing on my vote. I’d never vote for him, no matter what. But…yes I would vote for someone who’d had an affair. Like Debra said - marriage is complicated.
On the other hand, there are some cases which are just so out there that I think it would have bearing because it goes to character and sense of decency - e.g. Rudy Giuliani moving his mistress into the mayoral mansion (low class) or Newt Gingrich abandoning his wife when she was sick with cancer (no class).